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Breaking Habits

'No step is lost on this path and no dangers are found. And even a little progress is freedom from fear'.
Bhagavad Gita, Chapter 2 verse 40

Sunset on the island of Symi Breaking patterns extends to curing fears and phobias and to changing habitual patterns of behaviour that are holding you back. You will learn to change any behaviour, just as you once learnt the behaviour in the first place.

Areas this covers may include, eating disorders, overtraining, habitual reactions to certain circumstances or situations.

Our Approach to Breaking Patterns

Our approach is based on a positive starting point. All patterns of behaviour or habits stem from a good intent. That intent was once to look after your interests. When you identify that you want to change, you see that the pattern has outlived its usefulness and become negative rather than positive. Working from this belief means that you don't need to repeatedly analyse the problem or beat yourself up.

A habitual behaviour is a reaction or action that is learned and installed as a response to a given situation. By repeating this action over a period of time, the pattern becomes installed as an unconscious reaction and therefore hard to break. Through understanding that behaviours and beliefs are learned responses, you will recognise that you have the power to change them and learn a new behaviour instead. They are not permanent and you can choose to hold beliefs and carry out behaviours that assist you.

Do I need to change this Behaviour?

You can establish this by asking yourself the question, 'does the habit/pattern enable me or is it counter productive to achieving my goals?'

Every Behaviour Stems from a Positive Intent

Accepting that a habits begin from good intent, frees you from self-criticism and constant self questioning. This is part of learning to channel every thought you have to empower yourself.

Training the mind in this way, frees you from limiting thoughts about whether you can change. By learning the steps to remove a phobia or pattern you will free yourself from something that may have held you back for a long time.

Identify what the good intent was

The technique of reframing you will learn to recognise what was useful about a behaviour, and to see when, through habit or familiarity, the pattern has continued outside a valid lifespan.

You will learn to recognise the original good intent in established behaviour patterns and to take the positive needs and find fulfilment for them in other ways.

The Steps

The specific steps you will learn will be:

Identify the habit and think about it non-judgementally
Discover the good intent behind the habit
Find alternative ways to fulfil any needs that the habit once met
Recognise the benefits of changing and decide to change once and for all.
Create changes in behaviour that once seemed permanent through visualisation and imagery exercises
Install the changes in belief and behaviour